When we talk about things like rape culture and consent culture, we often don’t give nearly enough attention to the importance of parenting and supporting parents. Parenting is hard work, and it’s a complex job, and there are tremendous social pressures at work on parents, with endless conflicting advice on the ‘right’ way to raise kids. We need to be affirming positive, supportive parenting that helps children grow into independent, confident, assertive people who know their boundaries and respect those of others — and we also need to acknowledge that the burden here isn’t solely on parents.

While I don’t have the responsibility of raising other people’s children, I do have the responsibility of carefully thinking about my interactions with kids. Children are impressionable, especially around the friends of their parents or people their parents admire and respect. That’s a huge responsibility, and it needs to be taken seriously. How would I have wanted to be treated as a child? How can I affirm a child’s right to her own body, feelings, and opinions? These are things I think about even in momentary interactions with children, because children are human beings, and they should be respected.

selfcareafterrape:

I think it is important to understand what self care is before going into how to do it.

Self Care originated in the medical field- to describe the things a patient could do for themselves. It began with the very basics, like bathing and eating. It would then grow into Self Care for Care Givers- which was the idea that a Care Giver could not properly take care of their patients if they weren’t at their mental and physical best. This is when the phrase really took off within the medical field. The phrase has since caught on even outside of the mental health sphere- but I do believe that people occasionally forget what self care really is all about.

Anyway, this is the first of many posts to come this week on the topic. Most of them will not be power pts though- I just felt this one fit the format.

Another note though- Self Care isn’t about being happy all the time or about pampering yourself. It’s about making sure that you aren’t running on empty. It’s about preventing breakdowns and meltdowns by taking better care of yourself and listening to your body/mind and what they need. It isn’t about being over indulgent or selfish.

Sometimes we have to slow down and take care of ourselves first.

Reblogged from selfcareafterrape

micdotcom:

Next time you get catcalled, just give them one of these

What do you do when a random stranger on the street tells you to smile, comments on your legs, hair or ass and then disappears with a smirk? Do you smile back to make him go away? Do you walk in the opposite direction? Do you give him a piece of your mind? 
Enter Lindsey, 28, a woman from Minneapolis who knows the feeling all too well. After a particularly frustrating interaction last year, Lindsey took to Craigslist to voice her disgust.
Genius plan she came up with | Follow micdotcom 

micdotcom:

Next time you get catcalled, just give them one of these

What do you do when a random stranger on the street tells you to smile, comments on your legs, hair or ass and then disappears with a smirk? Do you smile back to make him go away? Do you walk in the opposite direction? Do you give him a piece of your mind? 

Enter Lindsey, 28, a woman from Minneapolis who knows the feeling all too well. After a particularly frustrating interaction last year, Lindsey took to Craigslist to voice her disgust.

Genius plan she came up with | Follow micdotcom 

Reblogged from upworthy